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Sad results from alcoholic fight
scholar - 12-7-2017 at 22:20

One of my adult step-sons, an alcoholic, was jailed for some weeks because he was in a fight.

He was a handsome young man. But, in the fight, his teeth were knocked out. So, he cannot talk as clearly as formerly, cannot chew the same, and doesn't look the same. He has no job, so has no financial resources.

He was in an alcoholic blackout, so he does not know who did this to him, or why. He could run into the same people without knowing them, and they could attack him again. He would not even know to be on guard. He often says obnoxious things when he is drunk, so he may have provoked it. And, he is fearless and reckless when drunk, so he may have come to someone's defense, without regard to the consequences.

He has been in jail before, and he has lost the love of girlfriends before. He has lost his job after showing up for work with alcohol in him, but he speaks as if he is not aware that is the cause.

I hope this degree of physical harm to himself finds him to have "hit bottom." It is often the case that an alcoholic will only take drastic measures when things get so bad they feel an urgent need to change.

JackInCT - 13-7-2017 at 02:59

I presume that somewhere along the line a referral/whatever to Alcoholic Anonymous was attempted (and that fell apart). I'm not sure if AA is a 100% all volunteer organization wherever this man lives, but there is usually some paid staff person in some agency who is some type of a liaison person with at least one senior "member" of AA who is a de facto outreach person (you must have some sort of a community services information agency [at the local/county/state level] that has a "directory" of services). Since it's free, maybe someone in AA will attempt to reach out to this individual, and see how that goes [and where (the location) such an outreach attempt would occur is something that would need to be found out]; AA is no stranger to relapses. And maybe the AA person can, at the very least, explain the "process" for a state agency inpatient alcoholism recovery program (voluntary admission type) somewhere; that service should be free.

scholar - 14-7-2017 at 00:59

In larger cities, AA typically has many meeting groups, and an inter-group. There is a phone number listed for AA in the telephone directory, and volunteers sign up to have calls to that number forwarded to their own phone at the days and hours for which they have signed up. The volunteer may find himself fielding such simple questions as as locations and scheduled meetings, to more urgent requests for help.

One of the AA steps is to carry the message to others. Doing so aids the person who offers help in keeping himself sober, even if the person who calls does not commit himself to what he must do to establish sobriety.

Nimuae - 14-7-2017 at 06:57

I hope your step son recovers, Scholar.

What have you done about the child abuse victim ?