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LSemmens - 17-3-2009 at 12:42

Mother Appeals For Girlfriend For Adopted Son
Has she done the right thing or should she stay well out of it?


Quaver - 17-3-2009 at 15:21

She should stay well out! If he wants a girlfriend, I'm sure he can fine one himself:) (Perhaps he could start by shaving:D)


waffler - 17-3-2009 at 15:40

Good job there aint too many mothers like that


marymary100 - 17-3-2009 at 16:33

I read this yesterday and it raises all sorts of privacy issues - will she go online next when he does manage to have sex for the first time? Sex and disablement is a thorny subject and at least she recognises it as normal but to go to the papers was a step too far imo.


delanti - 17-3-2009 at 19:04

I knew it was my mothers fault.lips_sealed


BobbyKatLittleCub - 17-3-2009 at 22:01

Hmm... If I were her, I would never advertise for a mate or sex for my son. However, I would help him get involved with a social group with people with disabilities like himself...


Daz - 17-3-2009 at 22:06

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Originally posted by BobbyKatLittleCub
Hmm... If I were her, I would never advertise for a mate or sex for my son. However, I would help him get involved with a social group with people with disabilities like himself...


I would just get him doing normal things, I wouldn't keep him segregated at all, and certainly not wrap him in cotton wool and s/mother him.


BobbyKatLittleCub - 18-3-2009 at 03:06

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Originally posted by Daz
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Originally posted by BobbyKatLittleCub
Hmm... If I were her, I would never advertise for a mate or sex for my son. However, I would help him get involved with a social group with people with disabilities like himself...


I would just get him doing normal things, I wouldn't keep him segregated at all, and certainly not wrap him in cotton wool and s/mother him.


That's not what I meant at all... I am multiply disabled myself, and would feel more sociable talking with people that are more like myself, I did not mean to totally segregate him from everyone else or keep him from other social or other activities, and I certainly would not wrap him in cotton wool and s/mother him.

I'm tired of being attacked when I post my opinions. I'm done here.


Daz - 18-3-2009 at 09:33

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Originally posted by BobbyKatLittleCub

I'm tired of being attacked when I post my opinions. I'm done here.


WTF???

I was giving my opinion/thoughts/whatever. I was not attacking you FFS.

I'm sorry you took it the wrong way, but I'm not sorry for my post, because I didn't "attack you".

Great start to morning eh...! lips_sealed


Quaver - 18-3-2009 at 12:28

We won't know how the mother feels unless one is in exactly the same position as her. But I stand by my comment of getting him a shave;)


LSemmens - 18-3-2009 at 14:14

In making the OP, I certainly wasn't attempting to cause anyone offence. Like most, I felt that it was one line that the mother should not have crossed. Help and encourage him to meet someone but certainly not become the "matchmaker".


LSemmens - 18-3-2009 at 14:17

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Originally posted by Daz
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Originally posted by BobbyKatLittleCub

I'm tired of being attacked when I post my opinions. I'm done here.


WTF???

I was giving my opinion/thoughts/whatever. I was not attacking you FFS.

I'm sorry you took it the wrong way, but I'm not sorry for my post, because I didn't "attack you".

Great start to morning eh...! lips_sealed

On re-read, I suspect that BobbyKat took your comment as addressing her because you quoted her. Had your reply been alone, it may not have been interpreted as such. Just a thought.


marymary100 - 18-3-2009 at 17:04

I hope that BobbyKat and Daz will resolve this themselves without our intervention/interpretation


Daz - 18-3-2009 at 21:18

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Originally posted by marymary100
I hope that BobbyKat and Daz will resolve this themselves without our intervention/interpretation


I PM'd her/him this am and apologised, and explained t'was not my intention to offend him/her, and offered an apology for causing any upset, but not for my post...

I can do no more than that....

I guess Leigh does have a point. Rather over sensitive though, if you ask me.


marymary100 - 18-3-2009 at 21:23

Thanks for trying.


Nimuae - 18-3-2009 at 21:36

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Originally posted by LSemmens
In making the OP, I certainly wasn't attempting to cause anyone offence. Like most, I felt that it was one line that the mother should not have crossed. Help and encourage him to meet someone but certainly not become the "matchmaker".


I totally agree. By all means try to involve him in social groups where he is likely to make friends and maybe find a girl friend, but that is as far as she should go.