<sad sigh> I've been missing the wallet with my driver's license in it for more than an week. The wallet also had some money in it. I'm
also trying to find the license plate stickers which I was supposed to put on my license plate no later than Feb. 1, indicating my auto registration
is paid up. I think I remember tossing the envelope somewhere (like on a desk or on a pile of stuff), and they slid off (perhaps onto the floor)
somewhere. But, where? I am also missing a remote control to a DVD player, and a remote control to a TV. I've also been missing some sets of keys
for several months. Prayers about any of these are desired.
On the good side, while looking, I found a pocket notebook that has been missing for perhaps 6 months, and it has some important information in it. I also found a bank envelope of money from when I cashed a paycheck, and forgot to put the money in my wallet.
I used to live in chaos like that (another market story coming up).
We used to get hefty Christmas bonuses (several hundreds of pounds, and this was 30 years ago) which was paid, on Christmas Eve, part in cash and part in a cheque. It was a fairly liquid morning in the market and when I got back to the cottage I was renting I hunted around for a safe hiding place, not wanting to carry that amount of cash around the pubs I intended visiting that night. I put the cheque in my wallet. On the first banking day after Christmas I hunted high and low for that cash, but, almost entirely due to the quantities of alcohol imbibed over the Christmas period, I couldn't for the life of me remember where I had hidden it, so I was a little despondent only to pay the cheque into the bank.
18 months later I was moving, and a girlfriend was helping me pack everything up; "What's this?" she asks, holding up a Tibetan lamas hat (that's another story) "And what's this inside it?". There, neatly rolled up in the point of the hat was £500. Whoopee!!!
You've spoken about these things before scholar. Are they still lost or lost again?
I can't cope with living in chaos. The occasional "find" could not make up for the stress of losing things imo.
SRD, are you saying Scholar needs a girlfriend
Scholar, I'll pray for you (in my own way, since I'm not religious)
Pin the Devil Scholar that will find them out.
read # 14 onwards
Victor, are you joking?
Marymary, your link is quite helpful and encouraging. I am going to save its contents to a file in my computer.
Formerly, my main strategies were
1-taking effective medicine
2-using my professional activities for the main structure in my life
3-depending on my wife to help me with my deficiencies
My doctor changed my medicine (against my wishes), I don't have a full-time position, and my wife left me for another man, so my main strategies have been disrupted.
And now, it's time to work on finding those key missing items (at least the wallet and the stickers, I hope), after which I hope to run some errands.
I have many boxes in my living room, into which I have put stuff that was overflowing from desks and shelves. They could all be considered "Miscellaneous."
Everything has a home. If I'm looking for unpaid bills they're in the "inbox", recently paid ones in the "to be filed box", the rest are in the filing cabinet. My keys reside on a hook inside the door. The wallet either by the keys or on my desk. Even my tools reside in their "homes" except when I'm using them, then they are close at hand. No! my place isn't "sterile and drab" I do manage to "lose things". I've discovered today that I've managed to lose a lens out of my reading glasses. The problem is, I was wearing them at the time (they live on a cord around my neck). Today I managed to get back to working on lining the shed, so the lens could be anywhere on the ground (we live on a 1/2 Acre block, and I've been all over it)
Have you labelled your files yet?
Scholar,I have a 14year old nephew who is very badly affected by ADHD.Life is a constant struggle for my sister who is wonderful at coping with his disability.I know how difficult life can be with this disorder.My advice would be keep taking small steps and be kind to yourself.You are doing OK.
Thank you, Jenny. You're sweet, and kind.
Turn one room into the filing room perhaps? A room with lots of shelves/boxes all labelled? This will be your life forever if you don't at least
attempt to get it in order.
Your choice of course.
A suggestion on the wallet front, scholar. Go back and check the pockets on all your trousers, and, for that fact, jackets, too.
I remember the last pants I was wearing when I had the wallet (a grey pair that I wear around the house, because it has a little rust mark on the back
pocket area). I took the wallet out and threw the pants into the dirty clothes basket--but I don't remember where I set the wallet.
I'll keep looking.
scholar, you need my stepfather; when I was about 8 years old I was given a 10/- note for my 2/6d dinner money with strong admonishments to bring the
change home as we were pretty poor at the time. I got home, no change! My stepfather made me go through my day, moment by moment, until I remembered
that, during playtime, I had been upended on the playing field. He marched me up to the school field and made me show him whereabouts we had been
playing, he then explained that he would stick his umbella into the ground, describe a 2 yard circle around it, and we would search that area, moving
on after we were sure that that part of the field did not contain the 7/6d. So he stuck his umbrella into the ground, took two paces, bent down and
picked up the money. I wasn't sure whether to admire or hate him.
However, going very carefully through my movements when I have lost something is a tactic I use regularly to find things I have mislaid.
I lost my keys the other day. They weren't where I put them and I had to resort to the spare key to get back in my house.
They had, in fact, fallen into the ripped lining in my rather large handbag and were lying there covered by material.
Once you've checked the obvious, check again especially if there's a lining...........
A couple of weeks have passed since I lost it. I expect that will make it harder for me to remember than if I had tried the very next day.
You didn't happen to hang those trousers on summat before you washed them? My wallet was missing for some time, to the point that I was about to cancel all my cards and start again, when I luckily found it on the floor against the wall behind the coat rack where we hang clothes we intend to wear again. It may also be in the pocket of the trousers that you changed into.
Hallelujah! I found the wallet!
It appears to have slid off a chair that had some other stuff on it, as well.
It still has everything in it (driver's license, money, Kroger discount card).
I thank all who joined me in prayer.
Congratulations! Have you found the licence plate sticker yet?
No, O Quaver, I have not.
I have many pairs of pants and suitcoats laying around, which I have picked up at thrift stores (my waste size has grown some, and my older clothes no longer fit). I bought some materials to hang a clothing rod in my basement, and some jumbo clothes hangers (thick enough to hang slacks, without the dreaded horizontal crease at the knees). This will help a lot in reducing clutter. I have been throwing away stuff I don't need (mostly papers), and disposed of two garbage bags today.
After I finish the clothes rod and the clothes, I'll see what I can see. I hope I'll find it tonight. Even if I don't find it right away, my environment will be greatly improved. I have already discovered that I have several pairs of pants which fit me, that I haven't worn yet. (The big price tags are still on them!) .
Good news Scholar, keep going with the cleanup, you might find more stuff that you'd forgotten that you'd lost.