An old Daily Mail article I found randomly in a moment of boredom and had to share.
'What do you think - is Helen selfish?'
She bores me.
I'd like her children more than her I suspect.
Why have them if you're going to get someone else to do all the "parenting"? It's a very old fashioned attitude that children should be banished to the nursery and private school so that the mother has time for herself.
I think, as in all things, that it is possible to strike a balance and be satisfied in your adult life as well as doing things with your children. You don't need to go down the 24/7 parenting route in order to be a parent. Afterall, most men have been managing to have children and do the work thing for generations without a backward glance. You need to give them some of your time though.
I couldn't be bothered to read the most of article I'm afraid, I got to the end of each sentence and just kept thinking what a selfish, silly cow
I can scanned the rest of the article, she didn't change my first of opinion of her.
Agree, entirely with what Mary and T said, I try to enjoy (not always easy!) every minute I spend with my lad...
There is an age old principle here, "You reap what you sow". It reminds me of the old Harry Chapin number, "The Cat's in the Cradle".
Like Daz, I could not be bothered to finish reading the article, it was boring! I think that was her point. How she manages to make a living at writing when she can't even be interested enough in her chosen subject, beats me!
My Grandma used to say that only boring people were ever bored! Sounds like she was right.
Keepup with the positive encouragement, BG. SWMBO had grown up in a similar environment, only more so (violence etc). It took many years of postive encouragement to get her to the point that she now knows that her opinion is worth something, and that her choices are equllay as good!
Dr. Dobsen says that if you have developed a good relationship with a child, then proper discipline will be a good thing. But, discipline without such a relationship will lead to resentment.