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Daughter coming for a visit!
Redwolf5150 - 18-6-2009 at 19:23

Like Bear, we have a visitor coming for a couple weeks starting Saturday.

My 12-year old daughter Esmé, who I haven't had visit in over a year.

We are all on pins and needles waiting to see if everything will go smoothly or degenerate into a horrible mess as in her last visit.

shocked_yellow


John_Little - 18-6-2009 at 19:25

Blimey. Is she coming of her own accord or has she been palmed off on you by her mother? If she has come because she wanted to it should be ok. Shouldn't it? big difference between 11 and 12.


marymary100 - 18-6-2009 at 19:31

Good luck. :)


delanti - 18-6-2009 at 20:51

Hope for the best, expect the worst and keep the return ticket handy.lips_sealed


waffler - 19-6-2009 at 01:17

Hope all goes well :)


scholar - 19-6-2009 at 02:36

Best wishes to all of you.

Blended families can be challenging, even on a temporary basis.

Good fortune to you all. doffs_cap


Snowy - 19-6-2009 at 08:36

Hope it all goes well for you Redwolf, if it starts to go badly I would suggest to sit down together and have a serious talk to find out what is troubling her.
Its good to talk, not to shout.
waveysmiley


Springer - 19-6-2009 at 09:19

Ooo, i hope all goes really well redwolf. :D


scholar - 19-6-2009 at 11:24

Quote:
Originally posted by Snowy
Hope it all goes well for you Redwolf, if it starts to go badly I would suggest to sit down together and have a serious talk to find out what is troubling her.
Its good to talk, not to shout.
waveysmiley
Snowy, I note that Redwolf (who can write with the careful detail of a professional newsman, when he wishes) has not said Esmé's last visit was a problem because of her. It could have been because of circumstances (someone in the family got ill, the refrigerator broke down while she was there, the car broke down, a storm took out the electricity), or it could be that her personality and that of another family member don't complement each other.

I am NOT mentioning this to fish for information or to stir up trouble. Redwolf may be showing wisdom in not saying a word about the origins of any problems during the last visit.;)


Snowy - 19-6-2009 at 11:30

Quote:
Originally posted by scholar
Quote:
Originally posted by Snowy
Hope it all goes well for you Redwolf, if it starts to go badly I would suggest to sit down together and have a serious talk to find out what is troubling her.
Its good to talk, not to shout.
waveysmiley
Snowy, I note that Redwolf (who can write with the careful detail of a professional newsman, when he wishes) has not said Esmé's last visit was a problem because of her. It could have been because of circumstances (someone in the family got ill, the refrigerator broke down while she was there, the car broke down, a storm took out the electricity), or it could be that her personality and that of another family member don't complement each other.

I am NOT mentioning this to fish for information or to stir up trouble. Redwolf may be showing wisdom in not saying a word about the origins of any problems during the last visit.;)

Yes ,I see what you mean Scholar, perhaps I should ask the Mods to delete my post, what do you think?
I jumped to conclusions and I should not have done that, I am sorry if I have hurt anyone.
:(


scholar - 19-6-2009 at 12:06

Snowy, you are a dear, sensitive woman, and I love that in you.

Esmé is unlikely to read this (I would guess), and Redwolf often suggests I develop a tougher skin (which suggests he has one himself). I do not expect anyone to be upset by what you posted. :)

My observation can be put in a more positive way, a simple note that Redwolf may have shown kindness in not assigning any blame to anyone.waveysmiley


LSemmens - 19-6-2009 at 13:28

[mod hat on]
Whilst I understand your concern, McSnowy (I like that), if we were to spend our life deleting posts that were not quite "right", us mods would never have time to stir you lot up. It could make some threads totally confusing if one were to only come across it after some pruning. Besides, it encourages all of us to keep our words sweet, just in case we must eat them at a later date.
[mod hat off]

I hope it all goes well RW. At that age, it could be quite challenging. Our daughter had her moments, but we all survived! Have a good time!


Redwolf5150 - 19-6-2009 at 14:02

It doesn't help that Esmé has Aspergars. This makes her very willful and set in her ways.

This leads to conflicts on both sides.

:(


LSemmens - 19-6-2009 at 14:07

You will be in our thoughts.


delanti - 19-6-2009 at 14:11

Perhaps a little older and hopefully mellower, things will go well. While a teen would be difficult enough to deal with, her situation surely compounds things.

From my limited knowledge of Aspergars, a lot of patience and tolerance will be needed on everyone's part.

May the visit be joy.waveysmiley